Convince reluctant wife into dating men
Why do so many people suddenly seem to be commitment-phobic? I examined the research for something that might shed some light on the problem, and offer a solution.Research on Relationship Commitment A theory of relationship commitment by Carl Rusbult called , which I detailed elsewhere.She said, “You reinforce the myth that the reason men don’t commit is that the women in their lives do something wrong. In most cases, it’s the man in a relationship who decides he isn’t ready or doesn’t want to get married, and he makes this decision without any help from the woman." After telling Beth that more than three hundred women had worked with me on the marriage research and not one had made the comment she just offered, I apologized. My interviews with single men had shown there were men who would not commit.Beth was also right when she said that if I could help women identify which men were more likely to commit, I would be performing a real service.First, Beth reviewed the literature and research we had on file.With this in mind, I reviewed our interviews with men and women who were planning to marry and videos of two focus groups we had run with single men.
And when it comes to persuading women, you'd be forgiven for thinking that this was a near-universal point of suffering for most men.
Evan, I’ve been dating this guy for the past four months. I am his first serious relationship since his divorce.
Because of that we both have a hard time trusting that the other isn’t going to be like our ex. He, on the other hand, has only been divorced for about nine months.
A look at the modern dating landscape reveals that something in our attitudes toward commitment have changed.
Younger men and women seem to be increasingly postponing or avoiding marriage and serious relationships.
Of course, women shouldn't be expected to wait forever while a man decides whether to commit.